It's Not Mine

I had someone special and dear to me ask me yesterday for some perspective. I was honored that they asked me what I thought of the situation.
As I wrote my perspective out, I realized more and more how we all need this perspective on life, in no matter WHAT situation we are in.

This person has been dealing with some struggles with things piling up, one after another, and not understanding why. I will NEVER know why! First problems with things in their house, then another major problem with something in their house and now medical bills for something that problem seems like it shouldn't have happened...but it still did.
Here is what I told this person:


I feel like I can relate because of"PERSEVERANCE". Sometimes I feel like the struggles I face, with finding a house, with family struggles, with finances, yes. I feel like through it, every time it comes to do I trust God? Do I trust that God will lead us to a house, YES, i firmly do. But why isn't anything happening...BECAUSE He is shaping both of us through this long and frustrating process. We have learned through it that we are blessed to just BE IN A HOUSE, even if it is
renting...we've been learning a lot about each other and we've seen God work in our hearts regarding OUR finances.
Then with family struggles...this is a funny one. Because the things I struggle with with family things, are things that just have to do with ME. And its GOD showing me how areas of my life need more work, or how he stretches me to build my trust in Him and how I need to continually LET THINGS GO. And God knows how much I struggle with holding onto things in my life and
NOT letting HIM take it...let HIM take the burden. I have a hard time letting God handle my burden, when he specifically has told us to give it to Him. So through those things...even with the house too, God is teaching me to give those up to Him and not dwell on the situation and to take the time to reflect on what God has in this situation to grow me and mature me and shape me. Very humbling...

And then with finances...we struggle, just like you. Just when we feel we are getting ahead on something, something happens, mostly medical things, or car issues. But what I’ve learned through it as well, is how much do I trust God that He will provide for us during that. It could have been worse, and that is how I feel God has shown me things through finances. When a
medical bill comes across, i grumble and think, "my stupid jaw, can't i just have a new mouth!" hahaha...but no...God created me this way and I'm thankful for it. At least I can eat! It could be worse. And I TRUST God that IN TIME, He will provide for us. And as much as i hate payments and hate that i have that lingering on in my heart and head...I do know that in time, God will
provide us with money to pay it off...and in the meantime, i make payments for what I can!

I've also learned that God is teaching me things about finances through it. It's HIS money, not ours. And He doesn't mean for these things to happen, but I do believe He teaches us things about "our" money and how we are using "our/his" money. I'm not saying that you guys are frugal with your money, i know you are not. Maybe this is a way of God bringing you back to Him WITH your finances. I KNOW I KNOW I KNOW the study you guys went through and how that changed your perspective on how you give...BUT DON'T look at it that way. Don’t look at it in a way of why? Look at it in a way of OK God, what are you showing me here in my life that I need to work on more? HE KNOWS you give and give and give...and that is awesome!! But maybe He is showing you something else with your finances. Maybe he is trying to show you that ALL your money is His...not just that, that you give to others. I know you know this...

He wants you to trust him in all things...even this. He will provide to you...but will you trust that He will? Don’t look at it as a huge bill, look at it as YOU ARE HEATHY and NOT more seriously hurt than that. Goodness...I know this is hard. Because i think that same way...and think, OMG
how will i get through this bill!!!!???!! but you know what...YOU DO WHAT YOU CAN, and you will be blessed by God, maybe not right away, but you never know how God will bless you through this. God never said things would be easy or that we wouldn't have struggles. He says we will have struggles...it's a matter of how you respond to them. So I ask that you respond to God rejoicing, and ask Him for help through this. Ask Him to show you what He wants to show you
through this!

I write this and think to myself...goodness...I know I will face something like this someday too, and i wonder how I would respond. And I pray I would respond just how i am talking to you. Harder when you are on the opposite end. So maybe this is a good lesson for me as well, for the
future...or even currently with some of things I’m battling with! :)
Funny how that works out.

O Lord Jesus...I pray for my **********. What a sweet soul this person is and how they just wants to do what you desire for their life. I pray that in this situation at hand that you take there fears and frustrations and anxieties away right now. I pray that they turn to you and seek you out for
how to handle this and how to rejoice in you for this. I pray that they find comfort knowing that you are in control and that you WILL see them through on this financial burden they feel!!! It's
not a burden for them to carry and I pray that they see that and don't feel it as a burden from you. Lord, bless them and give them comfort. I thank you Jesus that ********* was not hurt more than this! How scary and to think it was only a big lip and sore tooth. It could have been head damage and so much more. Thank you for protecting and watching over. I pray they see it as a blessing and not as a problem. Lord Jesus, I ask that you bless them beyond what they can even imagine right now. Maybe not financially, but in other ways Lord. Thank you for keeping them health and having them in my life. Please give comfort and I know they are struggling to figure out why! As I am as well. But we don't need to know why this stuff happens, we just need to trust you. I pray they trust you and give it up to you!